DISCOVERING YOU ARE WORTH MORE, NOT WORTH~LESS
If you’ve ever decided (consciously or not) to define your personal or social value based on comparing yourself to others, you will know this can be a somewhat painful exercise at times. It is often an exercise that can leave one feeling as though they are just not enough in this world.
Have you ever been led to believe you are financially worth less than those around you, due to you working in a low-income job or you not being the primary breadwinner in the family? Does the idea of you earning less than others leave you feeling financially worthless at times? If you are not the most articulate person compared to others and these ‘others’ insist on letting you know in no uncertain terms you are worth less than they are, does this leave you feeling worthless to a degree? Perhaps you experience the challenges of mental illness or perhaps you’re a bit of a dreamer or a spiritualist; do those who proclaim to be ‘well grounded’ leave you feeling like you are foolish or worth less than them? Let me put it another way – are you left feeling worthless in some way?
Most often, the reason for us feeling worthless comes down to us being led to the belief that we are worth less than someone else.
In fact, we are never worth less when compared to those around us, our TRUE VALUE may simply be different. Let me give you an analogy when it comes to unrecognised value – When we look at a brick house, don’t we typically see the bricks, as opposed to both bricks and mortar? Have a think about it for a moment. Whilst those bricks which appear solid and reliable get most of our attention, it is also the mortar which plays a fundamental role in both strength and structure. Can one honestly say, when looking at a solid brick structure, that the mortar is worth less than the bricks? Imagine what would happen to the structure once the mortar was removed. Recognising how we complement each other is fundamental when it comes to understanding real value. When we see one another as being separate or ‘better than’, then this is when the whole social structure begins to shift and fall apart.
In the structure we call ‘life on Earth’, we may have plenty of those ‘mortar days’ where we’ve lost sight of where we fit in, yet our true value does not change despite our views. The truth remains the same, whether we recognise that truth or not: Whilst the young may appear as the ‘social bricks’, the mature aged often act as the mortar of society, holding things together through acquired experience/wisdom and guidance. Whilst the mentally grounded may represent what is solid or ‘real’, the spiritualists and those evolving through mental challenges for example (aka the mortar), show the importance of flexibility, the ability to gradually adapt to the pressures that surround us. And whilst the physically fit may give the impression of that which cannot be easily destroyed, those with physical challenges will play the role of society’s mortar as they remind us of the importance of adapting to physical shifts in our foundations.
Personally, I’d regard myself as more of a mortar person, holding things together to a degree for those around me when need be. I’m proud to be a mortar person which I find a little amusing considering my grandmother’s maiden name is actually ‘Brick’. I should add that whilst this amazing woman acted as both the bricks and mortar for her family, given my mum’s father died when my mum was only four years old (with her being one of four children to take care of), my grandmother faced incredible challenges throughout her life. It goes to show we have the potential to be the entire structure at times, which can prove to be a monumental task.
Recognising your role in this world is the first step toward realising your worth. Are you the bricks, the mortar or both?
If you happen to have those people in your life who make a point of telling you in a variety of ways how you are worthless, try not to take it personally, they are just under the illusion they are worth more. Karma may simply be waiting to teach them a lesson in humility.
And for those who truly love us unconditionally, they will recognise the ultimate part they play in our life – it is to leave us feeling as though we are worth more than what we believe our self to be, not worth less. LOVE is found in EVOLution and in those who inspire us to reach our potential when it comes to who we truly are.